“And if someone asks me if she’s my girlfriend. I’ll say no. She is my musician, and I’m her favorite song.” — Rudy Francisco.
What’s the difference between girl friend and girlfriend? According to a lot of men I know, nothing. According to a lot of women I know, everything.
Not to say that there’s anything wrong with either title, (or non title) but as I’ve gotten older I’ve noticed more and more of my peers who just refuse to put a label on their relationships.
“We’re just hanging out.” “I’m just having fun.” “He’s not even my boyfriend.”
Shit, her Facebook even says “It’s complicated.”
I don’t know exactly what happened to black and white, but it seems as if relationships these days are all kinds of grey. I heard someone tell me the other day that titles change everything. And it’s true. As soon as you put a title on someone or something, you expect them to act a certain way and live up to the expectation of that title. She’s my girlfriend now, I can’t fuck up.
Without expectations you don’t get disappointed. I feel that, I understand the logic. But ladies, if you really meant something to him, he wouldn’t fuck up ANYWAY, title or not. As long as the feeling’s the same and you two have a mutual understanding then who says ridin the wave of being unofficial is a bad thing? I mean, look at Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell.
Spoken like a girl who’s been in a lot of grey area huh? No. Spoken like a girl who’s witnessed first hand how title’s change (and ruin) everything.
I’m just sayin. Long as you’re happy, don’t fix it if it ain’t broke. Be easy, and be happy.
It could all be so simple…… you know the rest.