If you love me let me know, if you don’t then let me go.

I’ve had many a conversations lately with beautiful, successful, intelligent single women who have all had the same issues with their love life or lack thereof.   Specifically, how there are no good guys out there.  

Men are selfish.  They trick around, don’t settle down.  They’re all about meeting panties and not parents.   So, all the beautiful independent women search for the guy to prove ’em wrong.  The one guy to show em something different.  Because beautiful, successful, intelligent women are single because they can’t find a good man.

Let’s talk about the flip side.  Ever meet a good looking single man?  If he’s not the type to have comittment issues or multiple personalities, then he’s probably the type that got a roster of chicks:  The Main Chick, The Rich Chick, The Late Night Chick, The Out of Town Chick.  You probably know of one of them.   You know what boggles my mind tho?  They’re all good women.  They’re all bad ass.  But there’s one thing that none of them are — The ONLY Chick. 

And I can bet your paycheck that all of them are doing everything they can to be “The Only Chick.”   Because what good woman wants to share her man?  I’m sorry, but I missed that day in kindergarten when they taught the kids how to share.   And guaranteed, all these good women wish they were better women, because if she’s not the only woman, then what kind of woman is she?   An average one?   She and I beg to differ. 

Could I handle being a man’s main chick and not his only?  I don’t know.  Are other men different?  Probably not.  As much as there are Birds and scandalous females out there, good women exist.  (Hello, Hi. My name is Rachel.)  And good women are single because they’re still waiting to be swept off of their feet.  Good men exist, too.  I’ve seen them with my own two eyes.  But if you meet a good man who’s hot and successful and single?  It’s not because he can’t find a good woman.  It’s because he’s already fuckin’ with three.