Be about it.

After an enlightening conversation with one of the homies last night, we touched on the topic of good women vs good men.

I was saying things of the norm, things like there are no shortages of good women as there are shortages of good men.  Not necessarily a good man, but a man who is willing to be good to a good woman. 

He made a very good point when he said that most women, because they’ve been supressed, automatically think they’re good.  I made the observation that people in general, our generation especially, tend to feel entitled. Women feel entitled to talk out their necks with no consequence, to their man’s wallets, and to be treated like queens even when they’re acting like cats.   Men feel entitled to the P, to act like assholes, and to have a good woman.  My issue is not with this sense of entitlement at all, but more with the lazy people who think this way. 

In the end, the love you get is equal to the love you give and it’s hard to find a man or a woman who exemplifies that.  I can’t expect a man to be good to me, if I refuse to be good to him.   I can’t expect a man to want to be with only me, if i’m out trickin’ off.  And I can’t expect something out of a partner that I’m not willing to be myself.  

It’s as simple as the laws of attraction.  Be all the things you want to find in somebody else.  And when you are, and you finally find that person, you know it’s well deserved. 

Thanks for the reminder, Los.

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3 comments

  1. Deaj Quimen · August 5, 2011

    I know you probably get this a lot, but you’re so inspirational. I love seeing new updates not only here but on HB’s wordpress. I’m definitely thankful for your ability to (every now and then) smack some reality in the faces of your readers–including myself. *bows down*

  2. dexinthecity · August 5, 2011

    Ahh the law of attraction. Works wonders. Thanks for the post. Definitely reassures you that sometimes “it should all be so simple”. That when it comes down to it, it’s all about respect and love 🙂 Happy Friday Rach!

  3. Sue · August 5, 2011

    “In the end, the love you get is equal to the love you give and it’s hard to find a man or a woman who exemplifies that. I can’t expect a man to be good to me, if I refuse to be good to him. I can’t expect a man to want to be with only me, if i’m out trickin’ off. And I can’t expect something out of a partner that I’m not willing to be myself.”

    Sooooo, how do you find time to disect our (women’s) minds and put all our thoughts into words that make sense?! Seeeeerriiiiooouussslly..i HEART your blog!!!

    PS – I still have your # and am planning to put it to use!

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